Welcome to The Safe Womb

Here - just as the womb is a safe place that intrinsically knows how to nurture and grow new life - is a space in which you are invited to feel, heal and nurture your own new life of safety.

Many women’s health issues arise from a lack of safety - emotional, physical and spiritual and it is known that conditions, such as fibroids and PCOS are more prevalent in BIPOC women, a group who have been generationally exposed (and continue to be exposed to) stressors that our White counterparts have not experienced.

This Safe Womb exists to help women to return to a sense of connection and understanding of their wombs and their power. SAFETY is the primary environment in which a womb can thrive and live out the full expression of its beauty and creativity.

That SAFETY arises from a whole system that understands the interconnectedness of all things and lives and makes choices from the basis of that understanding. The sense of harmony experienced as a result of those choices creates a positive-feedback loop of SAFETY in which the womb can thrive in all its functions - physiological, hormonal, reproductive, creative and spiritual.

The Key to Safety

The ability to feel deeply and acknowledge our own experience is the key to safety. There is no one who can tell you whether you feel unsafe or not - it is your experience, a felt sense. Safety is not merely the absence of danger but a complex coming-together of information from the past and present that invites the nervous system to enter the mode of ‘rest and relaxation’ or to remain in a state of survival or ‘fight or flight’.

The different neurotransmitters and hormones that are released by the glands in the body as a result of being stressed or in survival mode (or conversely, safety and relaxation) send a signal to all the organs, including the womb, stimulating their cells to respond according to the communication they are receiving.

It is known that stress (and many strategies that we employ to feel better in the face of stress) is related to many diseases including high blood pressure, diabetes and even cancer. Stress is also related to fibroids, PCOS and other hormonal imbalances via the inflammation pathway - one in which the body thinks that it needs to defend itself against danger.

Unfortunately, many of the dangers that we now face are not physical but mental and emotional. Despite there being a lack of physical danger, the same neurotransmitters and hormones are released and over the course of time, the accumulation of the effects of this stress and maladaptive strategies to reduce it results in health conditions.

Therefore, the first step in beginning the journey to safety, womb health and a new life (where you do not have to accept unsafe situations, chronic stress, pain, ill-health, heavy periods, anaemia, sub-fertility, incontinence, depression, anxiety and bloating as normal) is to acknowledge that there is anger, pain, sadness, fear, resentment and disgust within you. And to accept them all as friends who have some information to tell you about historical, ancestral, past and present wrongdoings that you and those who came before you did not deserve. Then you can declare within yourself that you will not carry the legacy of this pain and ask all of these emotions what they would like to let you know for you to heal, balance and harmonise. You might find that a lot of the changes you will find that you need to make have to do with setting boundaries and saying NO to violations of your personal power and boundaries, some that may have been taking place for generations in your family, culture and our society.

Sometimes patterns of violation and wrong can be so deeply entrenched that it can be difficult to even recognise that they are going on - particularly if we have learned to be resilient, grit our teeth and ‘get on with it’ and endure. The problem is that, while resilience can be useful for facing short-term challenges or seasons in our lives when we need to push through something, sustaining this in the long-term results in a necessary hardening or crystallisation of our emotional waters in order to endure.

WE WERE NOT BORN TO ENDURE WITHOUT AN END IN SIGHT.

‘Enduring through long-term discomfort’ can be one of the first, and most difficult collective ancestral beliefs that we have to unravel. Yes, in times gone by it may have been so but thanks to the work of our ancestors and the time and place in which we find ourselves now, that does not have to be our reality. We are no longer subjugated, enslaved and colonised and we no longer have to fear for our physical safety, lives, food and shelter if we do not comply in the face of abuse.

We now have choices that our predecessors did not have the luxury to make. We can now take up the opportunity to live lives that honour the sanctity of the short time we have on this Earth and promote our health, vitality, pleasure, relaxation, self-knowledge and SAFETY.

But…

Without making the mental effort of challenging these patterns, setting boundaries and taking the risk of shaping the immediate world around us to meet our needs for COMPLETE SAFETY, our bodies will not receive the message that all is well and that

Pleasure, Joy, Health and Relaxation (the by-products of safety) are our birthright.

Now is no longer the time to endure but to claim the life we were born deserving to live.

Now is the time to know that you are COMPLETELY SAFE, because YOU CHOOSE to create that safety for YOURSELF.

And so it is.